I just watched a film that I shouldn’t have watched because it just seriously screwed up what little sense I have about fairytale endings and sex. Hollywood, you’re smarter than me, you’ve got me pegged, you know how to ‘get me,’ I admit it. Resentfully and not without embarrassment. I’ve been listening to The Summit Church (Durham, NC) sermons on itunes and one point that I thought was interesting was the relation that men have with love and pornography. Normally, I make the blanket assumption that ‘not feeling love, not feeling like you’re ‘in love’ is primarily a woman’s struggle. I just think guys don’t really love like women do, that is, highly emotional. Not that men DON’T love, just that it looks completely different, feels different. That’s what I’ve been told all my life and from observation & I have no reason to deny that as a legitimate analysis. But the sermon said get a man whose mind has been informed by pornography and you will see a man who cannot ‘feel’ love. Obviously, it’s not just an eye struggle. It’s not just a lust issue, it’s a love issue. Of course, women aren’t off the hook. The movies we watch –like the bloody criminal fantasy, Friends with Benefits, that’ll do some mind formations as well. Guys will go into instant lust just watching it and girls will go into instant dream world. Wow, that’s just great. Ugh. Kill the machine and take a walk under the stars. Oh, wait. It’s Scotland = it’s raining. Orion’s not out to guide me tonight. Duuuude.
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