Gotye- Somebody That I Used To Know (feat. Kimbra)- official film clip (HD)

I don't get into all of Gotye's music, it gets a bit out there, but I have to give them kuddos for creativity. Esp. the posted video--clever, simple and stark. The lyrics are rough and dramatic too, which, I must confess, I love. However, "Somebody that I used to know" kind of drives me crazy though. It's not just them, of course. I keep hearing songs about people who are over THE EX. Look, you don't go on about how you are over your ex if you're really over them. If you don't care, you don't ever think about them. If you do think about them when all is quiet and the stillness drowns out all the noise of the day, then you're still dealing. You're pissed off, you're hurt, you're in denial, whatever. I get that. But 'I don't care' rubs me the wrong way because these are lies that people tell themselves and others affirm as the truth. As if saying 'I'm over it' makes it so. Give me a break. Ok, ok--I know that the 'lie' is both a) a coping mechanism. But coping mechanisms are crap jobs in themselves. Best to avoid them. And b) maybe the obvious pain of the song makes a lie of the statement to drive the point that they still are hurting. But people hurt you and life hurts and that's the deal. You don't ever get over it but though God's grace, the 'it' no longer defines your life. Life is beautiful. Ok, I'm stepping down from my soap box.